✝︎Brighter Days and New Possibilities After Divorce

by Kim Johnson

Understand the Good That Can Come from Your Divorce

  • You can change for the worse, stay the same, or change for the better
  • Work toward being content with your life

“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:12-13)

  • God will take everything and work it for his good. It doesn’t mean your divorce was necessarily good, just that he will make good come from it.  Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.”

Understand How Your Pain is Used by God

  • Pain points us to Him
  • Psalm 118:8 – “It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man.”
    • Keep your relationship with the Lord first
  • Pain helps us understand God’s comfort
    • Psalm 34:18-The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
    • Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
    • You are created in His image – Genesis 1:27

Understand Yourself

  • Use this time to become acquainted with who God made you to be
    • Take a personality test or read Strength Finder
    • Deal with the luggage from childhood and past relationships
    • Learn better relationship skills
  • Understand the choices you can make as an individual
  • Choose to believe the truth of God’s Word about you and your circumstances. (John 3:15; Jeremiah 9:11; Psalm 139:16-17; Ephesians 2:10; Psalm 94:14; Joshua 1:9)
  • Choose Joy (Romans 12;12; Proverbs 17:22; Proverbs 10:38; James 1:3)
  • Choose Faith (Romans 10:7; Hebrews 11:6; Hebrews 11:1; Luke 1:37; Proverbs 3:5-6) 
  • Choose Community (Matthew 18:30; John 15:2; Colossians 3;13; Galatians 6:2 
  • Choose Service (Matthew 23:11; 1 Peter 4:19; 1 John 4:19; Luke 6:38
  • Know who you are in Christ
    • You are loved-John 3:16
    • You are secure -Psalm 16:8-9
    • God delights in you -Psalm 147:11
    • You are known intimately by God -Luke 12:7

Understand What to do Next

  • Continue your recovery
  • Join a small group at church
  • Volunteer at church
  • Study your Bible
  • Stay in touch with new friends and old friends from your life
  • Continue to heal so this experience doesn’t define the rest of your life
    • Work on anger
    • Work on forgiveness
    • Work on your relationship with God
    • Work on the place where you are right now. Don’t try to jump ahead.  Determine where you are in your healing process and take your time.