✝︎Brighter Days and New Possibilities After Divorce
Understand the Good That Can Come from Your Divorce
- You can change for the worse, stay the same, or change for the better
- Work toward being content with your life
“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:12-13)
- God will take everything and work it for his good. It doesn’t mean your divorce was necessarily good, just that he will make good come from it. Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.”
Understand How Your Pain is Used by God
- Pain points us to Him
- Psalm 118:8 – “It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man.”
- Keep your relationship with the Lord first
- Pain helps us understand God’s comfort
- Psalm 34:18- “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
- Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
- You are created in His image – Genesis 1:27
Understand Yourself
- Use this time to become acquainted with who God made you to be
- Take a personality test or read Strength Finder
- Deal with the luggage from childhood and past relationships
- Learn better relationship skills
- Understand the choices you can make as an individual
- Choose to believe the truth of God’s Word about you and your circumstances. (John 3:15; Jeremiah 9:11; Psalm 139:16-17; Ephesians 2:10; Psalm 94:14; Joshua 1:9)
- Choose Joy (Romans 12;12; Proverbs 17:22; Proverbs 10:38; James 1:3)
- Choose Faith (Romans 10:7; Hebrews 11:6; Hebrews 11:1; Luke 1:37; Proverbs 3:5-6)
- Choose Community (Matthew 18:30; John 15:2; Colossians 3;13; Galatians 6:2
- Choose Service (Matthew 23:11; 1 Peter 4:19; 1 John 4:19; Luke 6:38
- Know who you are in Christ
- You are loved-John 3:16
- You are secure -Psalm 16:8-9
- God delights in you -Psalm 147:11
- You are known intimately by God -Luke 12:7
Understand What to do Next
- Continue your recovery
- Join a small group at church
- Volunteer at church
- Study your Bible
- Stay in touch with new friends and old friends from your life
- Continue to heal so this experience doesn’t define the rest of your life
- Work on anger
- Work on forgiveness
- Work on your relationship with God
- Work on the place where you are right now. Don’t try to jump ahead. Determine where you are in your healing process and take your time.
